Have you ever seen the show “Boy Meets World”? You remember Mr. Feeny? Well we live next door to him, kind of. Our neighbor is this sweet older man who is always talking to us over the fence. He is an incredible gardener & everything in his backyard is thriving: fruits, vegetables, flowers, everything.
I thought to myself, why can’t I barely keep a house plant alive! Wellthat’s an easy answer, I barely tend to it. I see Jerry out in his yard night & day, pruning, weeding, watering. Doing what it takes to have a thriving garden. He is disciplined, he labors, he reaps what he sows. He works for what he desires.
How often do we see someone’s beautiful garden & feel sad about our dying plants without acknowledging our own lack of effort? Making things thrive in our lives require labor, discipline, effort. I am quick to complain about my weight and just as quick to grab a bag of hot Cheetos for a snack. Then I whine about my friend being so thin, meanwhile she’s snacking on fruit. This is a small example of how I can easily acknowledge my lack of success without acknowledging why I am not being successful.
We all have desires, right? A lot of those desires stem from wanting to be better, wanting to grow. But everything that grows requires consistent efforts. . . even our desires to grow or better ourselves.
When we see the progression of others we can easily feel envious. What if we allowed that to make us more eager to pursue our own progression?
I have been walking over to the fence to chat with Jerry & gaze upon his garden but now I am asking him for tips. Walking my dying house plants over so that he can access the situation & then tell me what I need to do. I could just hand them over to him & say nurse this back to health, that would be easier. But I want to learn how to put in the work, I want to reap my desires from sowing the necessary seeds.
Friends, I want to challenge you to stop looking over the fence in aimless adoration of the beauty someone else has labored for. Instead we should look with adoration & feel encouraged. Encouraged to get out in our garden, day & night, pruning, weeding, watering. Reaping the beauty of the seeds we are sowing in our lives. So that one day we can sit in our rocker, like Jerry, & gaze upon the beauty of our garden.
“Those who tend to their land will have abundant food, but those who chase fantasies have no sense.” -Proverbs 12:11