“Just a wittle privacy pweez mama!” That is what my 4 year old son said to me one day as I was recording him on my IG story. He is 4 years old & has enough intelligence to notice when his privacy is being invaded.
This moment with Noah brought me back to a conversation with my husband. One time I posted a story with him in it on Instagram & he asked me do I consider that maybe him & the boys don’t want to be all over the internet. I overlooked his statement & carried on with my normal oversharing. But after Noah’s comment I really started thinking about this.
Do I have the right to put any & everyone on MY social media? After all it is mine, not theirs. I signed up for this, not them.
So I decided to try & keep my social media just that, mine! To share little bits & pieces of mi familia but not put their entire lives all over the internet. It has been so freeing. Just keeping them to myselve, capturing moments just for us. . . Our memories. . . Our fun.
People often comment on how photogenic my kids are & ask why we don’t pursue more opportunity for them with advertising or modeling. Brands always reach out to me & ask to send me things for the boys to advertise. I’ve decided that when they are older & more conscious then I will let them decide. For Noah, Issa no! His ability to say no made me rethink my constant “advertising” of or with my children.
One thing I have loved the most about not sharing everything about my kids is feeling safe. There is something peaceful about knowing that the world doesn’t have access to every detail about my children. We are a social media Saturday’s generation so it is very easy for us to forget how scary social media can be. Tagging our location everywhere we go, posting pictures with our kid’s schools in clear view, we so easily let strangers into our lives. I’m just not here for that when it comes to my family.
So that is why you don’t see my boys too much on my feed anymore. I want to keep them to myself as much as possible. I want to keep their lives private until they are able to decide. I love sharing myself with you all & will continue to share the things motherhood is teaching me. I just am taking a different route with my family cheering me on behind the scene, & maybe an occasional family photo.
This is what works for me, this is the dynamic that makes our family happy, this is us.